Since it's Thanksgiving, today should be the day that I write about what I'm grateful for. No doubt I'm incredibly blessed. But today I have something going on in my head. I'm realizing through this process of having migraines and dealing with migraines I have learned a lot, and that those lessons can help me in dealing with other areas of my life.
For what it's worth, these are the lessons I've learned.
Never give up. As much pain and hurt you have to go through, it's worth the fight. When you feel like your physical and emotional energy tank is empty, God gives you a new day to keep going.
No regrets. Own your decisions. Own your mistakes. Don't look back. Everything has happened for a reason. Believe and know that you did everything you could at the time with the best information you were given at the time, believing it was the best thing for you at the time. There was no way to tell how it would affect the future or if it would be a good or bad choice. So don't look back.
Stand up for what's right and best for you. Doctors may be the medical experts, but they aren't the experts of your body and your pain.
Be nice. Even though you stand up and assert yourself, I feel that others are more responsive when you are nice about it.
You are the one with the pain, so YOU are the one that has to make the decisions. Personally, I'm a very indecisive, fickle person. Add chronic pain to that where my processing is slowed, and I have a hard time making decisions. As much support as I have from others giving me advice, ultimately it is my life and my choice of what to do.
As an advocate for yourself, You are in control. When it comes to your healthcare, you are in complete control. Granted, the doctors have the medical knowledge, and you can do everything you can to learn more and become educated. But you have the control to continue treatment with the healthcare professionals, or to 'fire' them. Out of all of these lessons, this one probably does not generalize as well to other areas of life. Unfortunately, in other areas of your life, when you're unhappy with something/someone you don't always get the luxury of 'firing' them and moving onto something/someone that works better for you.
You can't worry about the unknown. In my personal situation, I haven't known when I will become well. I have always held onto hope that it will happen, just not sure when. God has given me this situation and I have accepted it. Even though it may mean that I do not know what happens in the future. It would have been easy for me to think, "what if it gets worse, what if it gets to *this* point, what if I can't do *this*..." and believe me, I was there for a short, dark time. But I got out, and realized that I can't worry about it. I can't worry about what may or may not happen. I have to keep living in the moment.